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A simple case study on goal setting.
After my “trial separation” became permanent…
I made a decision.
I didn’t want to live single.
I didn’t want a series of girlfriends.
I wanted a wife.
So I wrote it down.
And I read it every day.
Not casually.
Emotionally.
Because I meant it.
At the time, I moved to Adelaide.
Ended up living with my parents at 49.
Not exactly the plan.
But I kept reading that goal.
Every day.
I didn’t know how it would happen, I just made it clear that it would.
Then something did happen.
My mother invited a friend’s daughter to Friday night dinner.
She was going through a separation too.
We met.
We clicked.
And we’ve now been happily married for 18 years.
Here’s the interesting part.
What I wrote down was almost exactly what happened.
Not perfectly.
But close enough that it’s hard to ignore.
That’s the power of:
Clarity
Repetition
Emotion
Most people miss the last one.
They write goals, but they don’t feel them.
That’s the difference.
If you want to change something, make it real.
Regards,
Brent
P.S. If you want to make sure you’re heading in the right direction:
https://brentm.systeme.io/calculator
It’ll give you a clear answer quickly.
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